When it comes to fighting, you will win and you will lose. Unless you are in the sport of Boxing, where they pick and choose opponents to ensure that fighters can maintain perfect records, you are going to suffer losses.
If you follow fighters on social media, you will notice a lot of them will always give themselves credit for their hard work and dedication when they win, and disqualify their losses using some excuse as to why they lost. Yes, a lot of fighters tend to be narcissistic and entitled, believing the world revolves around them. (This may be a consequence of social media.)
When a fighter discounts their losses away, they are basically saying, “I should have won, but I didn’t because of X, Y, and Z.” Discounting everything that their opponent did, and putting the entire outcome on themselves.
The truth is that there are good days and there are bad days. If you compete at a high level you will run into fighters who are simply better than you. There is no shame in losing to someone who has better timing than you, you live and learn.
There are a million excuses anyone can use that will make it seem reasonable as to why they lose. However, the real champions don’t make excuses, they just find a way to get it done. If they lose, they accept defeat and work harder in the next fight.
When You Step in the Ring – There are No Excuses
One of my biggest pet peeves is when I see fighters immediately make a social media post saying why they lost. Excuses like “I didn’t feel good,” or “I had nagging injuries” are just a few of the many things you see posted on social media accounts.
While there are legitimate reasons why you might not perform at 100%, if you decide to step into the ring, you are taking a bet that you can win the fight regardless of your circumstances. Any excuse afterward is just an excuse. Not only is it bad for your own personal development as a fighter, but it is disrespectful to your opponent.
Listen, I get it. Shit happens in the ring that is out of your control. You might get beat by an inferior opponent that you KNOW you can beat. This shit happens in the world fighting. You could be dominating someone from the start of the first round to the end of the fight when suddenly BAM! You get hit with a shot you didn’t see, and you get knocked out.
That shit is embarrassing. Trust me, I know how it feels. This pressure to perform is even more amplified when you have a name and thousands of fans who are cheering you on. Losing a fight can often mean a loss of face and reputation, so it is natural that fighters would make excuses as to why they lost the fight.
How to Lose a Fight with Grace
If you lose a fight, accept defeat and promise to do better. Saying something along the lines of “I didn’t perform at my best, but I will do better next time.” Additionally, congratulating your opponent on getting the win is a statement that accepts responsibility, and doesn’t make excuses.
Losing with grace is a sign of a fighter who understands that anything can happen in the ring. If you choose to step in the ring, regardless of the circumstances, you have to be willing to accept the outcome of the fight.
You will never see someone disqualify a win by saying their opponent wasn’t feeling their best and was injured before the fight, but you will always see people disqualifying a loss by using every excuse under the sun. Taking away any credit from their opponent and putting the blame on themselves.
Now, obviously, there are some situations where you might lose a fight that you believed you won. If these situations occur, you can say “I’m happy with my performance, but I will try to understand what the judges are looking for next time. Congratulations to my opponent on a good fight.”
Be Humble in Victory and Defeat
As a fighter, it is important to understand that the fight can go either way. You are one punch away from being on the side of victory or defeat. When you recognize the risk that both you and your opponent take in the ring, it is important to be humble whether you win or lose.
Being humble is a trait that will make people respond to you and give you more fans inside and out of the ring. Sure, people might like the cocky act that Conor McGregor puts on, but he is a rare breed of people, and karma eventually did catch up to him.
If you are humble in Victory, then you will also be humble in defeat. No matter how bad you felt in the ring, remember that you decided to step into the ring. When you make the decision to compete, you have to eliminate any excuse from your mind. Whether you are sick or injured, you are making a bet on yourself that you can win the fight.
So if you don’t win the fight, be humble and accept responsibility for the loss. Accepting responsibility will drive you to work harder and push you to make changes that can make you better.